9. The Unknown Phenomenon

Sunday, August 23, 2015

Yesterday I came across this quote at the World Market. It is a very straight forward if you think about it but for some reason it caught my attention. I don't know if it got my attention because when I read it, I was with a very special person or because I actually feel that way when it comes to her. 

Even till this day I feel like no matter where I go, she is there.

I  mean that in a good way.

Everywhere I look, she is there. This is helpful for me because it allows me to make better decisions with anything. 

If I feel like I can't do it anymore she is there to push me

If I feel like I want to do something but I shouldn't she's there in the back of my mind saying don't do it. 

I do not want to make the analogy of her to an angel because I see her as more than that. 

There is something I've noticed lately and it's fascinating to see this phenomenon. 

As an Economist (nerd) studying how people behave and make choices to allocate their unlimited wants on scarce goods is enjoyable. Yes, I do have a life. But the phenomenon that I came across is how people behave with other people. I'm not talking about just everyday interaction I'm talking about the special bond or connection with someone. Let me give you some examples of what I am trying to say.

How do best friends emerge?

Well, it begins as just an acquaintance, maybe you see him/her at school/work. You two keep talking, share common interest topics, maybe music, films. As the friendship gets closer, maybe share memories from the past and overtime make new memories in the present. You talk to them quite often maybe via text, you guys become snapchat buddies lol (haha I feel like in a few years I'll read back at this and be like snapchat that is so old kinda like myspace) anyway haha you become closer with that person right? 

It's a very normal thing as human beings to interact with one another. We need human interaction in order to prevent us from going insane! 

However, the phenomenon I am referring to its hard to explain but I'll try my best.

Have you noticed that we tend to act different with certain friends than others. We have different levels of comfortability with different people. I have notices this for a while now but never like that way I did before yesterday.

In the beginning, I mention I went to the World Market. As I walked the isles with her, we came across multiple items and we would joke around as we usually do, we would walk across the store without telling the other where we are going but we both knew we wanted to go on that isle. I began to sing the chorus from the song "Why You only Call me when you're high by Arctic Monkeys" (great band btw check out their AM album) and she would tell me "idk why but I was just thinking of that song" I got goosebumps as she said that. As we got back to the car we wonder "when did we get this close?" 

I don't know when or how but we did. After 3 years of a special bond , you become extremely comfortable with that person and stop caring about being judged or being looked at as a weirdo because that person has accepted you for who you are. 

That is probably one of the best things in life. Being accepted for who you are. Reaching that level of comfortability. Having someone there by your side. Someone you could enjoy life with. Have the time of your life. Enjoy yourself to the fullest. Looking track of time because that she makes you feel like time is infinite and you don't care if people are texting you, or you got an important call from work because you are looking at the most important thing. You start to realize that parties, bars, clubs and whatnot are pointless because you want to be home with that special someone. You have days off school or work and all you want to see is spend time with that person. You stop listening to what others say because only you know what you have with that person, a soulmate. I'm just lucky I found it at an early age where I am able to enjoy her for a longer time